The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck

A Counterintuitive Approach to Living A Good Life

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For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "Fuck positivity," blogger Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is fucked and we have to live with it." This book is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited: "Not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can care about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with stories and profane, ruthless humor.
Publisher: New York : HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2016.
Edition: First edition., First HarperOne hardcover.
Copyright Date: ©2016
ISBN: 9780062457714
Characteristics: vii, 212 pages ; 22 cm
Alternative Title: Subtle art of not giving a f*ck


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Mar 30, 2021

It was a fun and entertaining read, the author brought a lot of humour as he told his life experiences.

There was a lot of great advice in the book also, much of it common sense, but very useful to see it jam packed in one book. Every page almost had at least one gem of a sentence that would work great as a motivational reminder on a poster.

The book felt like a passionate friend talking to you and giving you advise about your life - with alot of humour and unnecessary swear words and exaggerated stories about their sexual conquests to help prove a point. As a result I take this book exactly as I would a friend giving me advice, I value the input and would try to filter through all the extra stuff to really try and take the advice to heart. But I would also be a bit careful in applying it as it's not really coming from an expert who has worked, studied or helped others in the field.

For me the best advice in the book was the Do Something principle. Just start doing some action, anything and eventually more inspiration and motivation will come to you as you go.

Like many I was also bothered by the constant and unnecessary use of the F word. But then I thought to myself, why am I giving a f--k about that? Once I stopped giving a f--k about that, the use of the word f--k stopped bothering me and I was able to appreciate the book more.

Feb 14, 2021

I liked it. I am leaving this comment because I no longer give a f***, which shows this book works.

Feb 04, 2021

I’m not a fan of self-help books. I find that many of them tend to repeat the same ideas over and over again and don’t give you a clear path or way to help you achieve your goals.

I decided to read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (TSAONGAF) because my mom thought that it would help me. I was immediately intrigued because the title is very blunt and in your face. The book itself is like that too. Manson is very blunt and straightforward but I actually liked that. He tells you that the key of living a good life is to care about things that align with your personal values and gives the reader steps on how to achieve that.

There were a lot of points in this book that resonated with me, such as how when a person has no problems, their mind automatically finds a way to invent some. Or that you shouldn’t just love with the result, you should also love the process.

While there were some points/ideas that I did not agree with, overall, this book was a great help and I’d recommend it to others.
@hotlinebliss of the Hamilton Public Library's Teen Review Board

Feb 01, 2021

Early, got fed up with repeated use of word 'f*ck'.
Not enough substance, so after persevering was still bored. Read to last three chapters before decide not wasting any more of my time. If was not a library loan, this waste of paper would hit recycle bin 😒

Dec 29, 2020

I thought it was self indulgent and beyond boring. Stop whining and look for solutions.

Dec 19, 2020

I was enjoying it so well, I bought my own copy without finishing it (13 more people were waiting!)

Nov 19, 2020

Starts off kind of funny but not really a good book and with 3 pages to the end, I left it on the night stand for 3-4 days. Not a strong ending clearly!

Oct 27, 2020

Listen to audio in high speed, to see if would be worth reading in instead. Not worth reading or recommending book.

Sep 24, 2020

This book is pretty nice. It teaches you to stop caring about the stuff that you really don't care about, and start caring about the stuff that you really do care about. For instance, if you care about your parents, start caring more. If you don't care about a certain coworker, just ignore them and don't give a f*ck about them. That's basically the main message in this book.
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Aug 05, 2020

An absolute bore!

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Feb 17, 2020

Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent ; it means being comfortable with being different. 

ArapahoeMaryA Mar 13, 2019

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.

Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.

It turns out that adversity and failure are actually useful and even necessary for developing strong-minded and successful adults.

Aug 25, 2018

"A good life is not a life without problems. A good life is a life with good problems."
“In my experience, the more uncomfortable the answer, the more likely it is to be true.”


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Aug 21, 2019

Coarse Language: This work contains curse words.


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